BDSM: A Beginners Guide

So you think you are KINKY?

     You’ve read and seen 50 Shades a hundred times, you only watch “Rough Sex” porn, maybe you like pulling hair/ getting your hair pulled. Whatever it is that lead to you doing the internet search that lead you hear, first I want to say CONGRATULATIONS!!! You have already taken the first step in this beginners guide. How? you say? Keep reading.

Step 1:

     Forget everything you think you know about Kink. You may have some good information, but chances are that unless you have been around people who know, you probably have many misconceptions. But don’t worry, most of us did just getting into things, especially in a post 50 shades world.

Step 2: 

     Click Here This will open a new tab to Fetlife.com, this is the Facebook of kink. As your signing up and filling out your profile don’t worry too much about what everything means, you will learn it. Pick a name different then your own, this is for safety and anonymity. The main thing that your looking for at first are events in your area. Find out where we hang out, it will be called a munch (meetup lunch) you will probably find a few around you, depending on how big your city or town is.

Step 3:

     GO TO THE MUNCH. The greatest part of being in this community of wonderfully open minded people is the personal interaction you get from being around like minded individuals. When you get there, you simply CANNOT be afraid to put yourself out there and talk to people, talk to anyone and everyone you can. A simple “Hi, my name is xxxx, this is my first time here, what’s your name?”

Step 4:

     Make friends, learn from them, find other groups, explore and figure out what you like, what your into, who you are. This is just the start was what could be a truly amazing and fulfilling life if you let it be. 

Keep checking in here, I’m going to keep posting information about different kinks and titles and how I interpret them. The last piece of advice I give every new person is don’t worry about definitions, every name of every titles, kink, or otherwise in this life is subject to interpretation. 

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